This week on The Living Experiment, we’re talking about Sensuality — what that word really means, and the important, underappreciated role that sensual experience plays in our health and happiness.

We live in a culture that often distorts sensuality — glorifying sex and promoting certain forms of consumer-oriented decadence , but limiting our appreciation of our own inherently sensual natures.

So here, from the biological benefits of sensual of pleasure to the difficulties we have in talking about in polite company, we take a look at what’s known about sensuality and where it fits into our lives.

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It's high time we had a serious talk about pleasure. Because it can have a huge impact on your health. And well, it's fun!

So this week on the podcast, we're bringing you the first in a series of special guest episodes featuring teachers from Lafayette Morehouse, an intentional community founded in 1968 with the goal of maximizing the potential of its members, and on having life be, in their words, "as much fun as possible."

One fundamental principle of Morehouse teachings is that they don't prescribe solutions or try to fix anybody (they think you're perfect the way you are). Rather, they simply describe what they've seen work (and not work) in closely observing their own lives and the lives of others. And their #1 rule is this: Don't do anything you don't want to do.

In this first of four Lafayette Morehouse episodes that we'll share over the course of the next two seasons of the The Living Experiment, Pilar talks to teachers Judy St. John, Colin Selig and Janet Raibaldi about a dynamic they call "Resistance to Pleasure."

Here, they describe their approach to "responsible hedonism," and offer some useful strategies and perspective shifts that might just help you enjoy more pleasure and fun in your own life.

(These episodes were recorded live on the Lafayette Morehouse campus, so expect a little sound variation in sound.)

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This week on The Living Experiment, we're talking about Saying No, that magical word that can set you free – or feel like a one-way ticket to a guilt trip that will never end. Whether it's declining a request or rejecting an offer, the discomfort we feel in saying no — or feeling that we can't — is an immense source of stress for a great many of us. It's also a necessity that none of us can avoid.

So how can we get better at managing our authentic "nos" more consciously, and saying them with more clarity and conviction? How can we manage our desire to say "yes!" to life with our responsibility to set healthy boundaries that help us create a life we enjoy?

We get into all of that, and we offer you some experiments to help you say "no" with confidence, so you can say "yes!" when it matters most.

"Saying No" Episode Highlights

• The anxiety inherent in many "yes" and "no" situations in a culture where the onslaught of offers and opportunities can be overwhelming
• The difference between the saying an enthusiastic "yes" to life (embracing the exciting things that might scare us or pull us out of our comfort zone) vs. saying yes because we feel obligated or afraid of the outcome of declining
• The value of authenticity and the betrayal of self that comes from projecting a "yes" you're not feeling
• "No, thank you." How to turn down a request graciously (without undermining your answer by over-apologizing, lying, or qualifying the response)
• The vulnerability inherent in asking, and the possibility that a "no" might not be taken well by the recipient
• The costs of saying "yes" when we really want or need to say "no"
• The particularly challenging implications that "no" can have for women (who are socially trained to be "nice" and accommodating)
• How codependence shows up in our resistance to clearly stating what we want/mean/need
• Differing social expectations for how men and women communicate, and why women may be socially punished for being straightforward
• Pilar's biofeedback tip: Your body will tell you whether something is a "yes" or a "no." Listen to your body's response to a request or invitation and feel for the lifting lightness of "yes!" or the sinking heaviness of "no"
• Consider the decision formula: If it's not a yes (or "heck yes!"), it's a no
• The value of practicing direct, succinct "no, thank yous" — and when it's worthwhile to soften the blow by articulating the reasons (and/or just being kind about it)
• A Lafayette Morehouse tip: Look behind a "no" (your own and others) to discern the "fears of loss" that are precipitating it
• This week's experiments ...

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