This week on The Living Experiment, we're talking about "mansplaining" — that dynamic where men sometimes explain things to women in condescending, clueless, or less-than-respectful ways.
Perhaps a man persists in explaining something that a woman already knows. Perhaps he talks over her attempts to express her own point of view. Or perhaps he holds forth in some way that generally does not honor his listener as an equal.
Mansplaining has become a popular term and a hot topic over the past few years, and because it's such an common source of stress and strife in our world, we also see it as an important and under-recognized health issue.
So in this episode, we talk about the origins of the word "mansplaining." We share our personal experiences with it and discuss how increasing our awareness of it can help men and women communicate in more constructive, mutually satisfying ways.
Finally, we serve up some experiments to help you notice how mansplaining might be showing up in your life — and what you can do about it.
Dallas suggests:
1) For men: Pay attention to how you speak to women, notice when you're mansplaining, and own up to it in the moment it happens.
2) For women on the receiving end of mansplaining, intervene with the man in a constructive way.
Pilar suggests:
1) Read Rebecca Solnit's thought-provoking essay, "Men Explain Things to Me", to get a sense of why this issue matters so much, and carries so much social, emotional and political charge.
2) Start noticing mansplaining on television, the radio, or wherever you overhear conversations.
Get full show notes and resources at http://livingexperiment.com/mansplaining/
We are big fans of coffee. We dig its flavor, its aroma, its health benefits, its feel-good buzz. We also know it's easy to overdo, particularly when we're rushed, stressed and depleted — which is precisely when all that caffeine is most apt to do us biochemical harm. In this week’s episode of The Living Experiment, we look at both the upsides and downsides of coffee, explaining how it affects both your body and brain from the moment you take a sip. We suggest ways to fine tune your coffee selection and habits, and offer our thoughts on the pros and cons of the burgeoning “butter coffee” trend. Finally, we present some experiments to help you make more conscious coffee decisions in your own life.
Dallas suggests:
Take a three-week break from coffee and all caffeine to assess your relationship with it and its effect on you.
Pilar suggests:
1) The next time you go into a coffee shop, order a "small," not a grandé, venti or super-jumbo-big-gulp.
2) Experiment with different ratios of cream to coffee.
Get full episode notes and links at http://livingexperiment.com/coffee/
Every season has its gifts, but we live in a culture that prefers to celebrate the bright, “go-go” energy of summer. Without the haven of a winter recovery cycle to replenish us, though, we get depleted, overstimulated, and overwhelmed. So in this week’s episode of The Living Experiment, we talk about the important and under-appreciated aspects of the winter season. We explain how you can observe its traditions by strategically adjusting your mindset, sleep schedule, food, fitness activity, and more. Drawing on ancient wisdom and modern-day science, we suggest some experiments to help you make the most of winter in your own world.
Dallas suggests:
Progressively adjust your bedtime to get more winter sleep.
Pilar suggests:
1) Add more seasonal vegetables to your shopping list.
2) Swap night-time TV watching for some other low-key, constructive or creative activity, even if it’s just for a half hour and one night a week to start.
Get resources and other helpful links at livingexperiment.com/winter.
Shame is universal. It touches every age, gender, and ethnicity — from a child who wets the bed to a presidential candidate who is caught off guard in a debate. Shame operates at your core, often playing out in a debilitating combination of aggression, withdrawal, and perfectionism. But how can you address shame if you have difficulty acknowledging or talking about it? In this week’s episode of The Living Experiment, we discuss shame openly, flushing it out of hiding and into the light of day. We talk about where shame comes from, how men and women feel it differently, and how it impacts relationship dynamics. We also suggest steps to shift from shame toward self-acceptance and insight.
Dallas suggests: Identify and compassionately acknowledge your shame.
Pilar suggests: In the moments you feel shame, change the questions you ask.
Get resources and other helpful links at livingexperiment.com/shame.